So it all started a few weeks ago when one of our good friends found out she was having twins! What made it even better was twins don't run in her family or her husbands! This made me Very jealous , not because I can't get pregnant or am even thinking about kids at the moment, but because I have always wanted twins. The likelihood of me having them is slim to none, but hey, a girl can dream can't she? So I brought the good news to my husband and we sent our congratulations. I then mentioned the jealousy factor to my husband and that's when the odd behavior started. Any questions and comments about children and he shuts down. Obviously he though I was catching baby fever. But I am not and told him so. We made an agreement at the start of our marriage that we would wait at least 5 years befor having kids. I reminded him of this and told him that's just what women do when our friends have babies! We talk about babies, we coo at babies and hold babies and for a few weeks we are in love with everything involving babies!!! It's the hormones and biological clock people. Get used to it. But that doesn't mean I want to prop my legs up and start popping out children! I am not ready, end of story, alas, my husband doesn't seem to grasp that fact. So I sat him down and explained all of this. And he looks me in the eye and says "I don't think I want to have children" I laughed, of course he wanted children, not now of course, but in time, he told me so himself, many times. I told him this, then he says "no I am serious, I don't think I ever want to have children"
Talk about a bombshell.
I was furious, this isn't something you tell your wife a week after your one year anniversay! I was pissed. We have talked about having kids many times, we even had to have an in-depth discussion during pre-canna (church run pre marriage councilling). Never ONCE in our 8 years of knowing eachother has he ever mentioned this. Then he says he doesn't want to talk about it and that was it. So for the next month I sat in a depression. How could he do this to me! Then I began to look at it logically. Four years to go, four years is a long time, a lot can happen, he will change his mind, he has a biological clock too. And I tried to keep my panicked insanity to myself. After all, who do you confide to that your crazy husband doesn't want children ever whenwe aren't even talking about having children for another 4 years?
Everyone will think I am nuts!
So on a recent trip to Florida, when we were both trapped in the car for eight hours I forced him to talk about it. He had very crummy answers. He said the reason he didn't want kids was because he didn't want our kids asking the kinds of questions he asked when he was a kid (WTF?!) and that when you had kids your entire life became about them, there was no more husband and wife any more, I would get fat and lazy and that would be the end of our romance. Again WTF!? Ok so yea that is what happened to his parents, but it didn't happen to mine! And it doesn't happen to everyone! I plan on being a hopeless romantic till the day I die, kids or no kids.
So by the end of the conversation he conceeded to not write off children forever and I told him that 7 years was my limit. (that would put me at 30) I am confident he will change his mind, but the panic still gets to me every now and then. So to be a rebel I went out and paid ten dollars for a cute baby outfit with dinosaurs on it (dinos are his favorite thing ever aside from Legos) and it is hidden safely away, so when I have a panic moment, I just glance to where I hid it and remind myself I am being silly. And I know one day I will be able to get that outfit out and we will laugh about how he said he never wanted children.
Give a chef a frying pan and they will show you a hundred different amazing things. Give a child a frying pan and they will show you the proper way to use it to defend yourself from a fire breathing dragon.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
I Am Alive!
That's right, I did not die!
So here we are, more than a year after my last post and boy what a year! Paul and I were married on March 13, 2010 in the beautiful city of Charlotte, NC. It was a beautiful ceremony with all our friends and family, we even had a sushi bar! I lost all the weight I was trying to lose and looked awesome in my dress! Then we went on our honeymoon to Jamaica for a week, then Paul left for a week long business trip. I missed him so. We then moved to Augusta, GA (well, I did, he was already there) then in November we moved to Buford, GA which is about an hour north of the Atl. We have a beautiful three bedroom town house that over looks a tree and off in the distance a community pool. Paul still works for a jewelry company and I have gone back to working for Williams-Sonoma. We celebrated our anniversary last month with a trip to see Peter Pan in Atlanta and frozen wedding cake full of spores.
It has been about 5 months since I was last violently ill (an after effect of salmonella) which has been the most wonderful 5 months since I left the hospital 4 years ago.
I cut my hair back in may of last year, the heat in Augusta was unbearable. So off it went from just below my shoulder blades to up to my chin. I miss it ever so much so now I am growing it back out again, this time with less split ends!
In Augusta we made some of the best friends we will probably ever have, two military couples who are now stationed in Germany and Hawaii! We miss them a lot and we talk as often as we can, they will be away for about three years and then hopefully will relocate back to the east coast.
I am going to try and take a picture a day this month, a new project just for fun to try and better document my life. I will post the ones you have missed since April first!
I have gained back all my pre-wedding weight so I am now on a diet, I am back down to 140, down from 151 a month ago, my goal is to fit back into my wedding dress by July! I will keep you updated.
Well here are some wedding photos and the start of my photo project! Enjoy!
You know what's really funny? When vegans get eaten by wild animals! It's like POW! That is what you get for questioning the food chain and circle of life!
So here we are, more than a year after my last post and boy what a year! Paul and I were married on March 13, 2010 in the beautiful city of Charlotte, NC. It was a beautiful ceremony with all our friends and family, we even had a sushi bar! I lost all the weight I was trying to lose and looked awesome in my dress! Then we went on our honeymoon to Jamaica for a week, then Paul left for a week long business trip. I missed him so. We then moved to Augusta, GA (well, I did, he was already there) then in November we moved to Buford, GA which is about an hour north of the Atl. We have a beautiful three bedroom town house that over looks a tree and off in the distance a community pool. Paul still works for a jewelry company and I have gone back to working for Williams-Sonoma. We celebrated our anniversary last month with a trip to see Peter Pan in Atlanta and frozen wedding cake full of spores.
It has been about 5 months since I was last violently ill (an after effect of salmonella) which has been the most wonderful 5 months since I left the hospital 4 years ago.
I cut my hair back in may of last year, the heat in Augusta was unbearable. So off it went from just below my shoulder blades to up to my chin. I miss it ever so much so now I am growing it back out again, this time with less split ends!
In Augusta we made some of the best friends we will probably ever have, two military couples who are now stationed in Germany and Hawaii! We miss them a lot and we talk as often as we can, they will be away for about three years and then hopefully will relocate back to the east coast.
I am going to try and take a picture a day this month, a new project just for fun to try and better document my life. I will post the ones you have missed since April first!
I have gained back all my pre-wedding weight so I am now on a diet, I am back down to 140, down from 151 a month ago, my goal is to fit back into my wedding dress by July! I will keep you updated.
Well here are some wedding photos and the start of my photo project! Enjoy!
You know what's really funny? When vegans get eaten by wild animals! It's like POW! That is what you get for questioning the food chain and circle of life!
Monday, July 6, 2009
Hold
Ankles... sore... cant run....
No joke, I think my running shoes are just too old because every time I have tried to go running this last week my ankles feel like they are on fire. So for now I just have to be content walking my two miles. I am however currently in GA visiting my hot sexy beefcake, aka Paul. I just got back from the pool while waiting for him to get off work, alas I think I burned part of my arms.... curses. The mansion was officially closed last week till July 14 where we will open for a week and a half then close again for another week. In the mean time I have been working at The Body Shop (my part time job) trying to make my ends meet. I also painted my nails to look like American Flags for the 4th. Then a co-worker and I went out to a bar for Karoke which we then became bored of in our drunken stupor so we headed to The Fox and The Hound where we ate nachos! (Paul was our DD for the evening... oh great, now I want donuts...) So now I will be relaxing for the next few days before heading back to NC. I have also been taking care of the garden at work while everyone is away. Tomatos, chives, spring onions, zuchinni, squash, egg plant and even blueberries! I get to eat every thing that I harvest too! Lots of it has been chopped up and put in the freezer so it will not go bad. Yummy! Paul's birthday is coming up soon so I will have to start putting together ideas for his birthday cake! His sister gave me a pirate ship cake pan for christmas so now I finally get to use it! Although I did see in the store the other day a Transformers cake pan, so I may need to buy that for a later time...
Things in the culinary world that confuse me
Zesters are like the Buffalo Bill of the citrus fruit world....
Monday, June 22, 2009
Exercising
Exercising has been going well! At first I thought my run was about a mile to a mile and a half. But come to find out it is actually about two miles! Cool! and today, I was able to jog for the Entire first mile! I also have a before picture....still working up the go to post it. Probably not. In about a week the place I work will close for about three weeks, no good. Fortunatly I have another job and they are going to give me as many hours a possible and apparently I am eligible for unemployment for the three weeks I am out of work. I am not up for accepting unemployment, but I have no other options if I want to continue to live in my apartment. It is only for three weeks I remind myself not three years, so I try not to think of it as a total handout. But I still feel like a shmuck for accepting it.
Paul and I went to Carowinds on Saturday and had a blast. We both realized how old we are. We got there around 10:30 and by 6:30 we were exhausted. I could have gone on a few more rollercoasters but Paul was getting a headache and was wiped out. We got home and took showers, and got in bed for a 'nap'. So we lied down and talked for about an hour and around nine we both passed out till 10am the next day. It was oodles of fun. We ate funnel cake and cotton candy, and pizza! Then we got a suvinear cup! So sue me.
Ralenta.
Things in the culinary world that confuse me:
Why are rolling pins so popular for hitting men with? I am sure a Cast Iron skillet would work a lot better...
Paul and I went to Carowinds on Saturday and had a blast. We both realized how old we are. We got there around 10:30 and by 6:30 we were exhausted. I could have gone on a few more rollercoasters but Paul was getting a headache and was wiped out. We got home and took showers, and got in bed for a 'nap'. So we lied down and talked for about an hour and around nine we both passed out till 10am the next day. It was oodles of fun. We ate funnel cake and cotton candy, and pizza! Then we got a suvinear cup! So sue me.
Ralenta.
Things in the culinary world that confuse me:
Why are rolling pins so popular for hitting men with? I am sure a Cast Iron skillet would work a lot better...
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Running
Ok so note to self: Always type blog in a word document and not on the internet page! My entire blog just vanished! And the Undo button did nothing! I am sooo maaad!
I was copying it to go spell check everything then POOF! Gone! I didn’t even think to close the window so it would stop the auto-save ticker. Damn. Let’s try again now that I am on Word.
Running, I started it again today! I haven’t done it in about four years so it was very exciting to try again. About halfway through my run however I thought “What the HELL was I thinking!?” Let me recap what has happened since I moved.
My boyfriend Paul got a promotion at work and was moved to Georgia, so we now have yet another long distance relationship. This one isn’t as bad, last time he lived in Maryland and we were eight and a half hours apart, this time it is only three hours. I weighed myself for the first time in a loooong time and discovered that college did not do pretty things to my hips. I had put on 20 pounds since I first came to college. This is ok, I still feel sexy and Paul agrees, but I do feel a little sluggish these days. So, by starting to run again I am hoping to lose about 15 pounds (I am currently at 140) and stay active and healthy. Paul has always been an active guy, and now that marriage is right around the corner, I would like to be able to keep up a bit more. I also want to shed a bit of the weight college added and over all just feel a little bit sexier. If I get brave I will do before and after pictures.
I felt good after my run, exhausted, but good. So I decided to break out my bike for a test run (I recently had it fixed up) and about three blocks down the road I came across a baby bunny! It was lying in the gutter in front of a big house where they had a crew mowing the lawn, I figured the lawn mowers had scared him out of his hole, but there was no hole to be found. I gave him a push to try and spook him into moving, but to no avail. So I picked him up and brought him home (I tucked him into by bra and rode the bike, lolz). The all of my girlfriends next door squealed with delight and we put him in a shoe box with a blanket. I REALLY wanted to keep him but I knew he was better off with an animal care specialist so I put him in his shoe box and planned to take him to the local wildlife center in the morning. But then at around 7:00 the girls next door got a hold of the center and the woman agreed to meet us to pick up the bunny. I was sad to see him go… But! He is in the proper hands now! And I just realized I am hungry… So time for food!
Ralenta
Things In The Culinary World That Confuse Me:
Crème Bruleè means ‘Burned Cream’, but you don’t burn the cream… you burn the sugar on top…
I was copying it to go spell check everything then POOF! Gone! I didn’t even think to close the window so it would stop the auto-save ticker. Damn. Let’s try again now that I am on Word.
Running, I started it again today! I haven’t done it in about four years so it was very exciting to try again. About halfway through my run however I thought “What the HELL was I thinking!?” Let me recap what has happened since I moved.
My boyfriend Paul got a promotion at work and was moved to Georgia, so we now have yet another long distance relationship. This one isn’t as bad, last time he lived in Maryland and we were eight and a half hours apart, this time it is only three hours. I weighed myself for the first time in a loooong time and discovered that college did not do pretty things to my hips. I had put on 20 pounds since I first came to college. This is ok, I still feel sexy and Paul agrees, but I do feel a little sluggish these days. So, by starting to run again I am hoping to lose about 15 pounds (I am currently at 140) and stay active and healthy. Paul has always been an active guy, and now that marriage is right around the corner, I would like to be able to keep up a bit more. I also want to shed a bit of the weight college added and over all just feel a little bit sexier. If I get brave I will do before and after pictures.
I felt good after my run, exhausted, but good. So I decided to break out my bike for a test run (I recently had it fixed up) and about three blocks down the road I came across a baby bunny! It was lying in the gutter in front of a big house where they had a crew mowing the lawn, I figured the lawn mowers had scared him out of his hole, but there was no hole to be found. I gave him a push to try and spook him into moving, but to no avail. So I picked him up and brought him home (I tucked him into by bra and rode the bike, lolz). The all of my girlfriends next door squealed with delight and we put him in a shoe box with a blanket. I REALLY wanted to keep him but I knew he was better off with an animal care specialist so I put him in his shoe box and planned to take him to the local wildlife center in the morning. But then at around 7:00 the girls next door got a hold of the center and the woman agreed to meet us to pick up the bunny. I was sad to see him go… But! He is in the proper hands now! And I just realized I am hungry… So time for food!
Ralenta
Things In The Culinary World That Confuse Me:
Crème Bruleè means ‘Burned Cream’, but you don’t burn the cream… you burn the sugar on top…
Moving!
Totally sucks. I finally got my computer and internet unpacked! Now however I need to go back and read what my last post was so I can pick up where I left off...
I did think of a fun and clever way to end my blogs though, it will be titled "Things in the culinary world that confuse me" so here we go!
Ralenta.
Things in the culinary world that confuse me:
Why do some Orential Five Spices contain seven ingredients?
I did think of a fun and clever way to end my blogs though, it will be titled "Things in the culinary world that confuse me" so here we go!
Ralenta.
Things in the culinary world that confuse me:
Why do some Orential Five Spices contain seven ingredients?
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
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